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Getting Comfortable with Labels: An Argument for Defining Your Relationship

Getting Comfortable with Labels: An Argument for Defining Your Relationship

In her book The Defining Decade, Meg Jay, PhD, describes the twenties as “the critical period of adulthood”. She points out that it is only within the past hundred years that this new developmental season has come about. People used to go straight from being […]

When Grandparents Divorce, Everyone Hurts

When Grandparents Divorce, Everyone Hurts

This summer, I experienced a painful and somewhat unexpected experience while visiting my recently-divorced mother’s house for the first time in three years with my wife and four children. It was quickly evident that my oldest two children had a strong recollection of some of […]

Reasons to Stay and Reasons to Go: Deciding Whether to Continue a Relationship

Reasons to Stay and Reasons to Go: Deciding Whether to Continue a Relationship

Central to life is decision-making. Each day we face a variety of decisions, and some of these decisions can have a substantial impact on our happiness and our relationships. Accompanying these decisions are often pressures that we feel from family, friends, romantic partners, and our […]

Seeking and Finding Fairness in Couple and Family Relationships

Seeking and Finding Fairness in Couple and Family Relationships

Throughout the course of our lives, we all experience violations of love, trust, and loyalty, and there are certainly times we may feel that our relationships are unfair. Like commitment, I have often wondered what the implications would be for our relationships, our families, and […]

We’re Engaged! Deciding to Commit for the Right Reasons

We’re Engaged! Deciding to Commit for the Right Reasons

My proposal was from my childhood dreams! My fiancé proposed in front of Cinderella’s Castle at Walt Disney Worlds Magic Kingdom. It was a moment I will remember and cherish for the rest of my life. However, the journey to my engagement and dream marriage […]

Illinois Council On Family Relations 2018 Conference

Illinois Council On Family Relations 2018 Conference

On April 27th, ten members on our research team attended the Illinois Council on Family Relations (ILCFR) 2018 Annual Conference in Normal, Illinois at Heartland Community College. Dr. Sibley and five our research team members (Amie Kahovec, Kelli Kohlstedt, Taylor Lupo, Hillary Schraufnagel, Hanna Stoffel) […]

NIU Undergraduate Research and Artistry Day 2018

NIU Undergraduate Research and Artistry Day 2018

On April 18th eight members of our research team attended the Undergraduate Research and Artistry Day (URAD 2018) at Northern Illinois University to present our research on Pre-dating relationships and the ever-increasing age at first marriage. As a research team we specifically explore decision-making in […]

A Review of “The All-or-Nothing Marriage” by: Eli J. Finkel

A Review of “The All-or-Nothing Marriage” by: Eli J. Finkel

In the book, The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work, psychology professor Eli J. Finkel offers an interesting and research based approach on marriage today. This book explores marriage in the modern day, and makes a case for our expectations in marriage being higher than […]

Resilient Commitment: Overcoming the Intergenerational Effects of Parental Divorce

Resilient Commitment: Overcoming the Intergenerational Effects of Parental Divorce

I still remember the phone call like it was yesterday. As I was preparing to leave for the university on a warm September morning in 2015, I received an unexpected call from my mother. In a very emotional conversation, she shared the devastating news that […]

Is It Too Late To Leave? Feeling Stuck In A Relationship With No Future

Is It Too Late To Leave? Feeling Stuck In A Relationship With No Future

Dating and forming romantic relationships during the age of ambiguity can be incredibly confusing, especially if your romantic partner seems uninterested in a committed relationship. As a research team we have had frequent discussions about the missed opportunities (see here and here), and emotional toll […]

Finding Happily Ever After in Your Marriage

Finding Happily Ever After in Your Marriage

Many people hope that one day they will be lucky enough to get married and build their ideal future with a partner that will be with them for the rest of their life. Some recent research indicates that married people are more satisfied with their […]

How On-again/Off-again Romantic Relationships Can Be Harmful To Your Future

How On-again/Off-again Romantic Relationships Can Be Harmful To Your Future

Have you ever wondered why someone has a pattern of breaking-up and getting back together with their romantic partner? Although rekindling a relationship that you once had may be comfortable and familiar, it also poses detrimental consequences for future relationship stability. In a time where […]