Tag: Commitment

Is It My Fault? When a Romantic Partner is a Cheater

Is It My Fault? When a Romantic Partner is a Cheater

Cheating, the word no one wants to hear in a romantically committed relationship. Finding out that your romantic partner cheated on you can leave you feeling completely blindsided. You may find yourself feeling paralyzed as questions about what went wrong flood your mind. Many will 

Ghosting: The Romantic Relationship Disappearing Act

Ghosting: The Romantic Relationship Disappearing Act

If ghosts are not real, then why do I keep getting ghosted? Previously on this blog we have discussed ghosting, which has often been defined as a verb that involves ending a romantic relationship by abruptly cutting off all contact and ignoring any communication attempts 

Where is This Relationship Headed? When One Romantic Partner is More Committed

Where is This Relationship Headed? When One Romantic Partner is More Committed

Many of us have a difficult relationship story that we could share. Unfortunately one of the traits of many modern romantic relationships is ambiguity. Many people find that they are riding along with a romantic partner that is less committed and invested in the relationship 

You Rejected Me For Someone Else? Why Some Rejections Feel Worse

You Rejected Me For Someone Else? Why Some Rejections Feel Worse

In romantic relationships, being rejected by a romantic partner for someone else can be one of the worst pains that an individual can experience. This is a heart-wrenching feeling and may lead people to question their self worth, confidence, the intentions of previous partners, as 

Are Fluctuations in Commitment Normal in Romantic Relationships?

Are Fluctuations in Commitment Normal in Romantic Relationships?

Fluctuation are often a normal occurrence in romantic relationships. In fact, fluctuation can occur in even the most flourishing and healthy relationships. When a relationship feels flat, this can provide couples with a time to reassess their priorities and find ways to strengthen their relationship. 

Getting Comfortable with Labels: An Argument for Defining Your Relationship

Getting Comfortable with Labels: An Argument for Defining Your Relationship

In her book The Defining Decade, Meg Jay, PhD, describes the twenties as “the critical period of adulthood”. She points out that it is only within the past hundred years that this new developmental season has come about. People used to go straight from being 

When Grandparents Divorce, Everyone Hurts

When Grandparents Divorce, Everyone Hurts

This summer, I had a painful and somewhat unexpected experience while visiting my recently-divorced mother’s house for the first time in three years with my wife and four children. It was quickly evident that my oldest two children had a strong recollection of some of 

Reasons to Stay and Reasons to Go: Deciding Whether to Continue a Relationship

Reasons to Stay and Reasons to Go: Deciding Whether to Continue a Relationship

Central to life is decision-making. Each day we face a variety of decisions, and some of these decisions can have a substantial impact on our happiness and our relationships. Accompanying these decisions are often pressures that we feel from family, friends, romantic partners, and our 

We’re Engaged! Deciding to Commit for the Right Reasons

We’re Engaged! Deciding to Commit for the Right Reasons

My proposal was from my childhood dreams! My fiancé proposed in front of Cinderella’s Castle at Walt Disney Worlds Magic Kingdom. It was a moment I will remember and cherish for the rest of my life. However, the journey to my engagement and dream marriage 

NIU Undergraduate Research and Artistry Day 2018

NIU Undergraduate Research and Artistry Day 2018

On April 18th eight members of our research team attended the Undergraduate Research and Artistry Day (URAD 2018) at Northern Illinois University to present our research on Pre-dating relationships and the ever-increasing age at first marriage. As a research team we specifically explore decision-making in 

A Review of “The All-or-Nothing Marriage” by: Eli J. Finkel

A Review of “The All-or-Nothing Marriage” by: Eli J. Finkel

In the book, The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work, psychology professor Eli J. Finkel offers an interesting and research based approach on marriage today. This book explores marriage in the modern day, and makes a case for our expectations in marriage being higher than 

Resilient Commitment: Overcoming the Intergenerational Effects of Parental Divorce

Resilient Commitment: Overcoming the Intergenerational Effects of Parental Divorce

I still remember the phone call like it was yesterday. As I was preparing to leave for the university on a warm September morning in 2015, I received an unexpected call from my mother. In a very emotional conversation, she shared the devastating news that 

Is It Too Late To Leave? Feeling Stuck In A Relationship With No Future

Is It Too Late To Leave? Feeling Stuck In A Relationship With No Future

Dating and forming romantic relationships during the age of ambiguity can be incredibly confusing, especially if your romantic partner seems uninterested in a committed relationship. As a research team we have had frequent discussions about the missed opportunities (see here and here), and emotional toll 

More Potential Regret from Missed Romantic Opportunities than from Rejection

More Potential Regret from Missed Romantic Opportunities than from Rejection

As humans we have a natural desire to feel that we belong, and we find social acceptance to be significantly rewarding and social rejection to be considerably threatening. I think this is especially true for emerging adults (18-29 years-old). In my experience, emerging adults are 

Just Married! A Newlywed’s Perspective on Marriage and Commitment

Just Married! A Newlywed’s Perspective on Marriage and Commitment

As emerging adults leave high school and enter college, the idea of commitment and marriage may not seem like a priority. So many emerging adults have this notion that your college years are the time to party, experiment, and just have fun, rather than be 

If They Cheated Before, Will They Cheat Again? Research on Serial Infidelity

If They Cheated Before, Will They Cheat Again? Research on Serial Infidelity

Generally, when one enters into a romantic relationship, above all else, monogamy and fidelity are expected. Usually it is unspoken, but most times it is understood. Yet, as research has shown, infidelity is quite common especially in unmarried relationships. Recently our research team read a 

Should I Take This Personally? Snapchat and Our Need for Connection

Should I Take This Personally? Snapchat and Our Need for Connection

As we know, technology is a powerful foundation for communication and has become more advanced and prevailing over the years. We often wonder on our research team how technology is affecting emerging adults (18-29 years old) relationship formation and satisfaction. After all, research suggests that 

A Review of “Fighting for Your Marriage” By: Markman, Stanley, and Blumberg

A Review of “Fighting for Your Marriage” By: Markman, Stanley, and Blumberg

Although first published in 1994, Fighting for Your Marriage by Howard J. Markman, Scott M. Stanley, and Susan L. Blumberg is just as relevant today as when the book was first released. Back in May, there were eight members of our research team who were